When things get tough!

Is it worth the effort? How many times do we ask ourselves that question when things get difficult? The answer depends on the situation because if you keep trying and get nowhere you feel like a fool and if you don't try then you forever wonder if it would have worked that time.

So what do you do? Well first you need to look at what is wrong then think about what you want and what has failed in the past this helps you see things a little more clearly its not snap decision time so take time to think things through!

Try writing down what makes you tick this is both partners by the way as this is a two way street! and then what you love about them this helps you to realise whether there is something there rather than focusing on the negative once you have done this you can go over these things together (but you are not allowed to get cross with each other) and compromise it has to be fair though or your lover will resent you.

Working things out is sometimes the right option and i would encourage this if you feel it is worth it. But sometimes it is time to say goodbye!

When it is over there is no looking back you've tried and feel unable to put any more effort in to it, it is always difficult to end a relationship but that doesn't mean you can't cope with being alone a fresh start can be wonderful it won't feel great at first but eventually you will get back what you were missing in life. Just don't let a break up ruin your life if you hols onto past hurts you will end up bitter and old with 30 cats and a reputation as a crazy cat lady!

Forgive and let go no matter what because it helps you to focus on your life and get back to you! Never forget that there will be someone more amazing that can truly rock your world you just have to find the right person.

It is the toughest decision you will ever make holding on or letting go so don't be pushed into it think about what you want from life because if trying again won't make you 100% happy and be worth the effort then maybe it is time to move on with life!